How (not) to destroy your life!

Stop constantly paying attention on how are you feeling. How are you feeling is only temporarily. Feelings are not under your control. Only your decisions are and how you act on them. Your action is under your control and your actions usually leads to an feelings of pleasure or shame, good or bad.

Stop worrying. Constantly caring about something often worsens things. The more you think about the bad things, it seems more likely that it will happen. Let them be.

Loosen your inner comments. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself that you are this or that. People constantly tell themselves how they feel, what others feel about them and think etc. We are imperfect beings and we have no capacity to know what is hiding in the minds of other people.

Try not to notice your inner criticism. It is pointless to condemn yourself or some one else. Judging others is also silly and much times stupid. After all, consider who really gives a damn to your opinion.

Stop feeling guilty. Guilt does not change anything. Since it is so. Do not mind. Take responsibility! Go & fix what you broke!

Stop worrying about what the rest of the world says about you. People or events are just that, people or events. And nothing more. In addition, most people have dedicated themselves to talk about you. And if they're talking about you, so what? Be yourself!

Stop worrying about the outcome. Numbers are just numbers. They do not have any mystical powers. Sometimes they overlap in numerical matrices so it doesnt have to mean anything at all. Your only job is to give your best from yourself.

Do not worry about your life and career if it does not go as you have planned it. The more you hold yourself to any plan, sooner you will make a mistake. Since the world is constantly changing every detailed plan usually gets old really fast. So instead plans try to observe things objectively and realistically.

Do not allow others to use you, so they can avoid their own responsibility. You can not be responsible for another person's happiness or success or you can do it for them to achieve. They should find their own path.

Do not worry about your personality because ...... You dont own it. Personality and ego, are an invented concept and often are full of illusions!

QUESTION EVERYTHING, AND DON'T JUST GO THROUGH LIFE, GROW THROUGH LIFE!

DIFFERENT WAY OF LIVING

Today, like almost on any other Sunday, my bjj brothers and I like to gather around and just "roll" ("Roll" is a term for recreational and easy sparring in JiuJitsu). I havent roll for a quite long time, because of my injuries as I have already mentioned before. I must say today I felt JiuJitsu like i havent felt it for a really long time, I do not mean that I was good or excelent doing it, or that i was dominant, fearless or unstoppable as I try to be every time i "roll". No! This time was different! During a sparring I tried to think about Jiu Jitsu and simultaneously I was trying to think about myself in Jiujiutsu, I asked my self : "What does Jiu Jitsu means to me?" Well, obviously it means a lot to me, it is a great part of me because every time I'm doing it above my pain threshold even If im injured or under a choke, armbar or something else. I do not stop even when im lazy! On every question I have been asking myself, I've got an imediate answer, and after answering it I've got another question, and so on...

"Jiu jitsu is great part of me, now could I live my life without it?"
"What kind of a person would I be today if Iv'e never practiced JiuJitsu?" I've been practiced lots of sports&activities, such as, boxing, weightlifting, bodybuilding etc. but these is much different and better...
It is really incredible and fascinating how much you can learn about yourself through JiuJitsu! I've got the feeling that every moment while Im doing Jiu jitsu, I almost exponentially evolve as a human being, because of this beautiful martial art everything seems quite better and for sure I am functional than ever before ...well, todays experience prompted me to say something about it and blog it, meanwhile I encountered this excellent statement from Joe Rogan after receiveing his black belt...This truly describes what JiuJitsu really is.

"This is seriously one of the proudest moments of my life. Out of all the shit I’ve done in my life…becoming really good at jiu jitsu is probably one of the most difficult things a person can do and I think it helps me with everything I do. I think the more I train and the more I meet people who are in jiu jitsu…people who are in jiu jitsu and train on a regular basis, they’re healthier people. Their egos are healthier. Especially men. They’re easier to talk to. They’re easier to hang out with. Because they’re facing reality on a regular basis.
Something that my tae kwon do teacher told me when I was a little kid that I never forgot was that martial arts are a vehicle for developing your human potential. And nothing in my life has ever put me in face with reality better than jiu jitsu. In life, we can all distort our perception of things in order to make ourselves more comfortable, in order to make ourselves accept where we are. And there’s a lot of people out there that are running around in life full of shit. You can’t be full of shit when you do jiu jitsu. When you do jiu jitsu, it’s impossible to be full of shit because reality comes at you in the purest form possible: A life or death struggle, using your determination, your focus, your techniques, your mind, and your training, over and over and over again.
And it’s reality. And if you fuck up and you get caught in a triangle, you’ve gotta tap. That is the end of story. It’s as real as it can get and that has made me a better person. It has made me a better man, it’s made me understand myself, my weaknesses, my strengths, the shit I need to work on. Jiu jitsu has been one of the most valuable tools that I’ve ever had in my life." - Joe Rogan, after receiving his black belt



  

Oss to Ruckus Bjj Clan Zurich & Werdum Combat Team Croatia

Life is an unfolding proccess of becoming...a GENIUS

Who do you think that a genius is? Ask your self those questions? Who do you admire or who is your role model? Here, first of all, I think about the people from your close distance... those who are more or less near you...maybe someone in your family, your friends...Do you know anybody who is a genius?

Well, definition of a genius is someone who has exceptional intellectual ability, creativity, or originality, typically to a degree that is associated with the achievement of unprecedented insight. There is no scientifically precise definition of genius, and the question of whether the notion itself has any real meaning has long been a subject of debate. The term is used in various ways: to refer to a particular aspect of an individual, or the individual in their entirety; to a scholar in many subjects (e.g. Isaac Newton or Leonardo da Vinci) or a scholar in a single subject (e.g., Albert Einstein or Stephen Hawking).
Genius (genius lat = Genius, a patron, a guiding human spirit). Outstanding intellectually, spiritually and creatively gifted person who has commissioned mankind with their parts in the fields of science, culture, art of, politics, etc. In a purely technical sense, the term refers to the person who tested intelligence with an IQ higher than 140. The total population of these people is between 0.5 and 1.0% (Source - Wikipedia)

There above is a specified and official clarification and definition of the respective term ... What interests me is and also what i've noticed - What does the word 'genius' really means?!... In fact, we often find ourselves in a situation where someone (usually with a touch of adoration) for someone else says, "He's a genius." It has often been noted that the genius is a role model or certainly a positive example to those who consider him a genius. Now ... what does that mean? Anyone who has an IQ over 140 is a genius? The fact that he is also perhaps an asshole, does that matter? Say, someone can have a very high IQ and can also be top in their own business but outside of that he can be very egocentric without empathy for others.... For me, that person is not a genius. He's just someone who leaves a certain part of his brain and has quick logic and fast mental abilities in some situations. In other words, someone with "talent". This talent can be expressed in music, in math, physics and so on. Will I admire this person? Will he be a role model for me? Well, I certainly wolud admire his or her's work and the result of it and I would certainly appreciate it, but I leave admiration for people who have developed not just mentaly but also socially, even spiritually and in other ways, no matter what their IQ is... For me, this second group of people is the one of the true geniuses ... those who are, at least to some extent, understand the meaning of life....and in their own greatness is that they are always modest and humble and they do not draw attention to their own greatness and accomplishments and desirable attributes. That is a genius!


"You have a good many little gifts and virtues, but there is no need of parading them, for conceit spoils the finest genius. There is not much danger that real talent or goodness will be overlooked long, and the great charm of all power is modesty. " - Louisa May Alcott

Have a nice weekend!
Mario Draksler 

WHEN YOU LOSE, DONT LOSE THE LESSON

This time, let me tell you something about injuries and myself.
It's been a while, almost 100 days that I havent trained jiujitsu, because of several injuries that I draged these past couple of years, moustly the problem was with my knee (tumor in tybia bone) and my right hand that I slighlty dislocated during the last tournament that I went on, except that, i have hernias in my back, 4 years ago i had a surgery on my spine, I recovered from it and continued to train, than my both shoulders also have been injured, I have a hole in my fifth rib, a couple of broken fingers on my hand and my foot, and not to mention everything else...

Broken finger...but...Where there is a will, there is a way!

All of those things doesnt bother me not to train, to live fitness and to achieve my personal goals, win tournaments in jiujitsu, or who knows what else. It doesnt stops me to continue the way I live and to take action on everything I do in life...WHY?

OK, lets stop a little bit!
I know this sounds to normal people a bit crazy, youve might think this guy isnt serious...Fortunaetly I'm dead serious, lets put all the love, passion, inspiration, motivation a side and let me explain it purely logicaly and with common sense! As I was saying it isnt a smart choice to quit and start being lazy and not to do new periodization and achieve new fitness or life goals. Quiting training while you are injured to recover yourself as many doctors say, if you are in sport or training it isnt going to solve your current situation, or even your injury, so often other people ask me "Why do you train if you are injured? Why do you bother? You always get new injuries, they think..."
On the contrary, because of everything above I need to train even more and even harder then ever before but also smarter than ever and a bit diferent than before, I need to train to heal and recover myself...that was and always is the cure!
Fortunately for me these days my recovery is almost done, I can say it is done! Ive done 3rd training these week, I feel reborned, stronger than ever, my jiu jitsu went a bit bad because of pausing, but couple of more trainings Ill be back on track with it. Also my fitness level is very high and im also planning to attend and start learning judo, just to bring you little insight....but after all the struggle Ive been to, it is normal for life to has its ups and down's, but it is in your moment of decision what are you going to do and in which direction are you going to go ,are you going to learn from everything and take action, become something better, or just sit and make excuses about everything because YOU are injured, but remember while you are postproning life speeds by. So its always better to take action and belive me it is worth it!

My best friend/trainer and Me on a graduation day

People need SPINE!!!!

People can be very strange, 
Beacuse of their ego's they experience the worst confidence trickster
They enthusiastically begin the path to their "big" goal's
Hopefully they run stormly to it as there is no other vital task.
They feel strong,
but only until they run into problems,
disappointments, unexpected blows, failures...
After dark when everything looks black,
many are scared and they quit.
"No, I can not."
"I'm tired."
"It hurts!"
"Why me and not someone else?"
"There's nothing I can do, others are to blame,
 society, relationships. etc. "...
 
Unfortunately.....
People lack spine!
SPINE as a perseverance, resilience,
self-awareness, self-confidence,
faith in their own strength,
in its value, in principles, virtues...
Spine to hold head upright,
high above all the negative mood's & enviroment..

The spine is the ability to sustain.

We need the backbone to walk upright,
the upright posture of the head,

to take responsibility

to facilitate the burden of worries,
for you to never crawl for money.

We need the backbone to withstand,
the right to continue,
to continue our own path.

With no EXCUSES and 
Only with the STRONG spine
WE WILL be better beings and 
 we'll create a better world!
GO&train yourself!!!

Winners vs. Losers

What does define you? Is it really so simple to be a winner or is it hard? What is the difference between winning&losing? Vince Lombardi once said that "Winning is a habit, unfortunately, so is losing!" What is the point of that?

One of the gratest things that you can realize about yourself and your selfknowledge is that moustly everything about your life, about how good you are, how good is your relationships, your work, your education etc. everythng in your life is about depends on your attitude.
Attitude like many other things is a state of mind and it is also a decisive act of will, to take action, it depends on your will, it is choosen by you and nobody else, attitude can not be imposed and that is a fact! That is why it is so important to always question yourself and your actions, because choosing to be positive when life brings you hard times or any kind of troubles (or you may call it difficulties) and having a grateful attitude can really make you strive for action and make a big difference and it will finaly going to determine how you're going to live your life and how or what your final outcome is going to be, is it going to be failure or succes, is it going to be winning or losing! It moustly depends on little things such as attitude! Which is an obvious difference between Good&bad attitude. Well then, let me tell you a "little thing" and diference in attitudes and what is the difference between winners&losers...

Winners focus on solutions, while losers focus on their problems. Winners take responsibility, while losers always blame others. Winners always find oportunity in crisis, while losers complain abaout the crisis.Winners enjoy the present and learn from the past, the losers live in the past. Winners make promises and fulfill them no matter what, the losers are never fulfilled. Winners are considering how they can achieve their goals and losers always have their excuses. Winners put personal development as a priority, losers neglect personal development. Winners face their own fears, accept them and move forward from them, the losers are lost in fear and moustly they are not even aware of their situation. Winners constantly expand their comfort zone, the losers are holding their own comfort zone. Winners always act, losers do not work and they lack perseverance. Winners accept defeat and learn from it and losers are afraid of defeat and avoid them. Winners are trying a variety of strategies when they do not get the expected results, the losers are doing the same thing over again and expecting better results. Winners set goals, losers do not. Winners plan, the losers hate planning.
Winners believe that there is always something to learn, losers put themselves as experts, even when they know little. Winners are humble, losers are egoists. Winners work hard, losers avoid to work hard, moustly they are lazy. Winners give their best when they do something, losers only give a part of yourself when you are working.
Winners are persistent and will do whatever it takes (in terms of sport&ethics) in order to accomplish their goals, losers quit obstacles as they arise. Winners wisely use their time and devote themselves to activities that will bring them closer to the goal, losers poorly manage their time and enjoy activities that they just take their time. Winners think about the possibilities, losers focus on obstacles that will prevent them from reaching their goal. Winners believe in their dreams, losers suspect. Winners control their destiny, all the losers are left to fate. Winners give more than they take, the losers take more than they can give. Winners think and lead, losers refuse to think and therefore must follow the other. Winners spend their money on personal improvement, losers think that spending money on pointless training's and prefer to buy things that give them instant satisfaction. Winners help others to win, losers refuse help and think only of them self. Winners are people who souround themselfs with like-minded ones and who can give them even more enhance. progress and upturn and losers souround themself with similar people who surround them and sooner or later they lead them to ruin.



Wisdom lies is in "little things", little "choices" is what you need to develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you and finaly knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. Little choices about attitude are the ones that makes a hell of a difference between good&bad, between winning&losing, and finaly between living&dying,! Attitude affects everything in your life! Attitude is a choice, like winning is! Choose to win and choose to live and be a winner!

Fitness is like Water

To understand what is the point of headline I must explain to you what does fitness means. First of all most of us missunderstoods the whole concept of what is Fitness. Most of people thinks that fitness reflects on a training regime or how to exercise on a machines at the gym, or they think it is some kind of institution where people socialize and exercise or do something else. There are all type of terms of Fitness such as health-related fitness etc. but as a core concept what does fitness means?

What is Fitness?

fit·ness 

    The condition of being physically fit and healthy.

    The quality of being suitable to fulfill a particular role or task.

The nessesity for being a particular individual in term of true sense what fitness represent as a lifestyle also means in mine opinion to be complete as an person and generally as a human being, also and moustly as an character. To achieve that complete-ness we must be healthy, we must achieve that in every sense that this word "healthy" represent, not just mostly in physicall, conditionaly, psychological terms and also in others. We must constantly work on our personal development as human beings and we must set that as our primary goal to achieve success and greatness, both in fitness or any area in life.

There is an old saying that "Water is the source of all life" so you can see the connection and simplicity of it, i would say also that for fitness, because if you want to make through life you must take responsibilities for your condition, your health and yourself. In every possible way. But when you decide to act on it, first, It will hurt! It will take time. It will require dedication. It will require willpower. You will always strive to make healthy decisions. Sometimes it will require sacrifice. You will need to push your body and mind to their maximum limits. You will have temptations sometimes, but I promise you when you reach your goals and destinations, it will be worth it.  
Remember...
Dont just go through life, grow through life and be Fit!

Mario Draksler